Here, four mothers discuss some of the changes that happened to their relationship once they became mothers.
‘Being intimate with each other is difficult as our son wakes up at the slightest sound, however, that’s not really caused any issues between us. When you have a baby you learn to show affection for your partner in different ways. I do things like cook him a meal I know he really likes,’ Rebecca (38)
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‘Sharing out household chores like doing the washing up has always been a cause of arguments between us. If I ask him to do things, my partner usually will but I don’t want to nag and it annoys me when things don’t get done. I feel like I have moved on and matured as I have become a mother but he still acts the way he always has done. On his days off he’ll happily stay in bed til mid-morning even though I’ve been up very early with the kids. By the time he’s up and dressed it’s too late to go anywhere and do anything as a family,’ Lara (27)
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Keeping your relationship strong
‘The little gestures to each other will strengthen a relationship. For example, if you see your partner is looking tired, it might be as simple as offering to cook tea. Before we had kids I worked full time and we shared all the household duties like making dinner, so I did have to get used to having a new role and dynamic between us. But ultimately it doesn’t really matter who’s had the hardest day or who’s most tired. Both partners need to work together to help each other out and be there to support each other,’ Emma (29)
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