I often hear from troubled spouses that until the “crisis” any outsider would have thought theirs an ideal relationship. Sometimes, when one partner decides enough was enough and leaves, the partner abandoned expresses amazement, never saw the problem which, according to the one who left may have been developing over several years. This is not unique. Even in a long-term relationship one partner may be unable to express discontent while the other partner is entirely unaware of the problem. We can grow so familiar, complacent in relationship that we may assume our partner “knows” we are not content, while the other may either miss the signs in the pace of life, or assume that if a problem does exist the other would say so. As if we expect the other in this breakdown of communication to be telepathic!
While the above description, drawn from real-life cases, is fairly common, not all marital discord take the same course. So what constitutes a “good” marriage, and how improve a marriage that both partners want to succeed, but can’t quite bridge their differences, feel they can get their needs met? Some articles in this section provide some answers. If you have a question regarding a personal issue please contact David Turner, LCSW by the Reply Form appearing at the bottom of this and all pages on this website.