I often hear from troubled spouses that, until the “crisis,” any outsider would have thought theirs an ideal relationship. Sometimes, when one partner decides enough was enough and leaves, the partner abandoned expresses amazement, never saw the problem which, according to the one who left may, have been developing over several years. This is not unique. Even in a long-term relationship one partner may be unable to express discontent while the other partner is entirely unaware that a problem even exists! We grow so familiar, complacent in relationship that we assume our partner “knows” we are unhappy, not content while the other may either misses the signs or assumes that if a problem exists the other would say so. As if we expect the other in this breakdown of communication to be telepathic!
While the above description, drawn from real-life cases is fairly common, not all marital discord takes the same course. So what constitutes a “good” marriage, and how improve a marriage in which both partners want to succeed but can’t quite bridge their differences, feel they cannot get their needs met? Articles in this section address some common issues.